Sex & Wellness with Dr. Mary

Episode 11 - How do I stop stressing?

For this episode, we have  Avery Virginia, she is an intuitive guide and helps people conquer and work with their limiting beliefs. 

In the past episodes, we talked a lot about physical health. I brought  Avery today to touch on the other aspects of our health – emotional and spiritual.

We had a question from Caroline in Cincinnati, Ohio. She is 40 years old and said she is working on taking care of herself, but she feels guilt and worries about it. She is asking for tips on stopping worrying so she can take care of herself. 

I work with many women, and I find that we carry so much guilt and shame when we want to take some time off for ourselves. Listen to how Avery and I tackle this question, and I hope this episode helps you one way or another! 


Let’s talk about:  

  • 00:35 – Introduction to today’s guest 
  • 01:16 – The importance of looking into the combination of physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of overall health
  • 02:00 – Avery on healing depending on your environment 
  • 03:39 - Introduction to the topic
  • 03:58– Initial take on the topic
  • 04:29 – Subconscious vs. Conscious – how subconscious beliefs can affect our lives
  • 07:12 – Avery on restrictive diets, losing weight
  • 08:30 - The unrealistic expectations set for our bodies and how it affects us 
  • 09:51 – What is intuition
  • 10:30 – What happens when we don’t listen to our intuition 
  • 11:25 – My journey with being diagnosed with cancer and how people-pleasing affected me 
  • 12:25 – How women’s spiritual worth, values, beliefs, and upbringing affects how they show up to the world
  • 13:46 - Men being invalidated due to the cultural patterns set in society 
  • 14:41 – The different narratives and how it affects a person
  • 15:20 – The masculine and feminine energies
  • 17:09 – Doing the personal work – how it guides you and your mission in life
  • 17:27 – How people forget about joy and what joy does in one’s life
  • 17:58 – Who feels most guilt around doing personal work 
  • 18:35 – My own experience listening to my intuition for my business
  • 21:06 – The fear and guilt of spending money for yourself despite working hard and how to get past it
  • 22:35 – The belief system that one has to embody for themselves and their children
  • 24:38 – Money as a social construct
  • 24:50 – How I healed after getting diagnosed with cancer
  • 26:07 – Fears, stress hormones, emotions, and how your belief system and narrative play a role in how you see, live life
  • 33:06 – When and how to start finding joy
  • 37:10 – Sexuality and relationship affecting finding joy and healing
  • 39:28 - The disconnection and loss of identity for moms
  • 43:22 – Another belief system that crushes our soul 
  • 44:35 – The benefit of doing physical activities in creating joy 
  • 49:05 – Chronic illnesses
  • 54:43 – The emotional, spiritual, and physical aspect of healing 
  • 56:40 – Living life may mean a less scary death
  • 57:18 – Conclusion

If you want to connect with Avery Virginia, check her out on Instagram.  

If you have any other questions or topics you want to talk about, send me a message on Instagram. And if you loved this episode, please leave me a rating and a comment with your feedback. Please share this with your friends and loved ones, too!


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I’ll see you in two weeks!